(including PDA-Type Autistic)

Working with children who present with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) can be challenging for therapists, educators, and parents. Traditional approaches often fail because PDA profiles are characterized by extreme anxiety around demands, even those that seem simple or enjoyable. This anxiety can lead to refusal, avoidance, or distress when asked to complete tasks.

The Magnet Method offers a fresh, respectful way to engage these children without triggering their demand avoidance. It’s based on autonomy, modeling, and natural curiosity—creating an environment where the child feels safe and motivated to join in voluntarily.

What Is the Magnet Method?

The Magnet Method is a low-demand engagement strategy that works by:

1. Offering a Choice: You invite the child to join an activity (e.g., “Would you like to help me build this Duplo house?”).
2. Respecting Their “No”: If they decline, you accept it without pressure or persuasion.
3. Modeling Enjoyment: You begin the activity yourself, showing genuine focus and enjoyment.
4. Creating a Pull Effect: Over time, the child is naturally drawn in—like a magnet—because:
   • They see the activity is safe and fun.
   • They struggle to sustain their own plan and find your structured example appealing.
   • They want connection without feeling controlled.

This approach leverages curiosity and co-regulation rather than compliance, reducing anxiety and fostering trust.

Why Does It Work for PDA Profiles?

Children with PDA often:

• Experience high anxiety when faced with direct demands.
• Have executive function challenges, making it hard to start and finish tasks.
• Crave autonomy and control, but also seek connection.

The Magnet Method respects these needs by:

• Removing pressure.
• Providing a structured yet optional model.
• Allowing the child to join on their terms, which builds confidence and reduces stress.

Practical Tips for Using the Magnet Method

• Stay Calm and Neutral: Avoid showing disappointment if they say “No.”
• Choose Engaging Activities: Use colorful, sensory-rich materials like blocks, art supplies, or puzzles.
• Focus on Your Enjoyment: Genuine engagement is key—don’t fake it.
• Give Space and Time: The child may join after a few minutes or longer. Patience is essential.
• Celebrate Voluntary Participation: When they join, acknowledge it positively without over-praising.

Benefits of the Magnet Method

• Builds trust and safety.
• Encourages voluntary engagement.
• Supports executive functioning through modeling.
• Reduces demand-related anxiety.

Final Thoughts

The Magnet Method is not about tricking or manipulating the child—it’s about creating an environment where autonomy and connection coexist. By respecting their choices and modeling enjoyable activities, you become a magnet for engagement, helping them thrive without pressure.

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